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me n my ex had a great relationship he was so in love with me and he showed me in so many ways ,however we got married and only couple months after he started to act strange he told me that he cant be in the relationship and he thinks i deserve better, why he up to this day never mention ... every thing was going so well never had a fight r a big argument we use to work out things so kool and one night after going to visit his hometown he called and said its over ..he say he dont want any girl friend , he said i was checking on him to much like i dont trust him i was shock when he said that because he will call me every sec to see f im ok and where i am r just to say he love me then his excuse was that i am to nice n dont deserve him ..even thought i cried so many tears and beg he just started to hate me more and turned into a monster ... when i did make up my mind to move on he came back n said he was sorry n he really love me and he was going tru rough toughts about being young n married ,,,i forgive him we was getting along ok when i found out he was seeing someone which cause him to leave me i ask him about it and he denied it and swore that they were only good friends .some how my trust wasnt there 100% any more .then i realise that no one can make me as happier as him i continue working things out this time it was more like an overseas relationship ,until one day again he told me never to call his phone suprisngly he call back after a few months we both talk about how much we use to love one another and the good time i told him i have moved on an prefer to be single n i need a divorce he refuses n up to this day he dosnt want to see r hear me he says he is single n could never find a woman like me and thats why he is still single.when ever itry to work things out he starts getting angry and says i dont love him and i shuld just move on n he will stay single because idont really care . guys can u tell me what can be really going tru his mind ?do he love me can we work things out i mean i never knew why we fell out in the first place.. he say he dont hate n i am always on his mind so why is he afraid of being with me ? is this a guy thing.?what should i do if he doesnt agree to divorce he say he loves me to much to do that but still if i call him up to tonight he will shout at me ?what to do guys can i work my way back into making this relationship work out the way it started im single and he is ?